We Heal Together

How to Break Free of Toxic Relationship Patterns.

Episode Summary

This relationship goes through 30 ways to break free of toxic relationship patterns. Be sure to check out the show notes for all citations, resources, book recommendations, and worksheets. If you like my content, I would love to have you as a part of my community. I invite you to follow me on Instagram @codependentrecovery. Check out the show notes for information on how to purchase my workbook & how to join ZOOM community clubs. Don't forget that a new podcast drops every Monday. Tune in next Monday for a new episode. We heal better together. See y'all soon. Xoxo- Cordelia

Episode Notes

Podcast Info

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HOW TO BREAK OUT OF TOXIC RELATIONSHIP PATTERNS

1. Heal all the parts of you (including the part of you that stayed or wanted to stay).
2. Find a licensed counselor/therapist: Check out Open Path if you are in the US & money is an issue [https://openpathcollective.org/].
3. Explore childhood wounds.
4. Make a list of warning signs/red flags for future relationships.
5. Be gentle with yourself.
6. Read books to help you understand your issues better [i.e., I realized I struggle with codependency issues, so the following books helped me: “Codependent No More” by Melody Beattie” & “Facing Codependence” by Pia Mellody”]
7. Buy a workbook for self-esteem [i.e., I bought “the Self Esteem Workbook” by Glenn R. Schiraldi”]
8. Accept help from your support system and friends.
9. Focus on living in the present.
10. Practice positive self-talk.
11. Write out a list of dealbreakers that you will stick to in the future.
12. Assess what your boundaries are [see below for examples].
13. Go no contact with your ex.
14. Fully acknowledge you have a pattern of being in toxic relationships.
15. Explore what relationships were modeled to you as a child.
16. Think about a friend or family member’s relationship that you respect.  Take notes [i.e., try to find a new “model” for a healthy relationship].
17. Give yourself time to heal.  Do not date until you are healed.
18. Form new friendships + build a social network.
19. Reconnect with any family + friends that you drifted from during your toxic relationship
20. Develop hobbies + interests.
21. Learn how to trust your gut/intuition in relationships.
22. Consider seeing a psychiatrist for underlying issues (i.e., depression).
23. Go outside more + go for walks.
24. Don’t be afraid to tell your story.
25. Cut out people from your life that don’t make you feel good about yourself.
26. Get some sunlight + go outside.
27. Aim for 7 to 9 hours of sleep per night.
28. Take care of basic hygiene (brush your teeth, take a shower, etc.).
29. Get rid of any reminders of your ex.
30. Accept reality + abandon the fantasy.

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CORDELIA’S BOUNDARIES:

1. I will not sleep with someone who calls me names.
2. I will not reach out to someone who abandoned me.
3. I will not take back someone who cheated.
4. I will not have conversations with anyone if I feel desperate.